draken lore
Mar 10 2010, 06:15 AM
well basically thats it, how do you personally deal with death in your lives.
ive seen alot of death in my family, but more so in my close friends.
At age 16 i lost my best friend whom i knew for 8 years.A couple years ago i lost someone else i knew for a few years and now in the last month ive lost 2 people who both had cancer, one who passed away this morning, and its got me on edge. not sure how im supposed to deal with it anymore.
So how about you all, how do you deal with death...i know some people deal easier then others.
strykker
Mar 10 2010, 06:17 AM
Buy a few cartons of beer and retreat into your house for a week.
swe
Mar 10 2010, 06:22 AM
it doesnt really phase me. i doubt the people who died would want friends/loved ones to spend time in a depressed state and shit over it. you can cry all you want, wont bring back the dead lol
Proto
Mar 10 2010, 06:25 AM
Go out for a drink.
scipios
Mar 10 2010, 06:33 AM
Doesn't seem to affect me, at least not yet. Had a grandpa die, a grandma, cousin, great great grandpa, few friends die, and my sister came like an inch from death but none of it ever seemed to matter to me.
I guess none of them were close enough to care because i'm pretty sure i'm not a psychopath or anything
Fire Doverâ„¢
Mar 10 2010, 06:45 AM
alan
Mar 10 2010, 07:05 AM
I don't have emotions. You could argue that I deal with it by not dealing with it, but I'd have to counter-argue in order for me to avoid it, I'd have to care about it. I seriously feel nothing for the people in my life. And it goes even further where I'd actually prefer some of them dead so they'd leave me alone instead of inconveniencing me by talking to me.
Marcel
Mar 10 2010, 08:22 AM
Still have my all my family members, even one that reached 102 last year.
I have been playing soccer for 9 years ( quit when I was 16 ) and the last 4 years 2 brothers trained us, coached our games etc. they were 21 and 22. last year, they wrapped their drunk asses around a tree. Dead. Didn't really affect me at all somehow, probably because they were stupid as fuck for driving drunk and they could've killed someone else.
Phil
Mar 10 2010, 08:59 AM
Only lost one friend/family member, one of my grandads. Both of my grandma's were already gone when I was born. I cried at the funeral a bit but it didn't seem to affect me all that much, I wasn't really as close to him as I am to the other (ironic, considering he lived like 3 miles away and the other lives about 150 miles away in Yorkshire).
Pighead
Mar 10 2010, 09:32 AM
only one i cared about dying was my granddad, missed him but didnt really do the cliché mourning you see in movies etc. I mean i didnt run around crying or doing stupid shit, just missed him.
Raynard
Mar 10 2010, 09:50 AM
Depends on the individual who has passed. If I am close to them, I cry, like most normal people.
laddipodge
Mar 10 2010, 10:23 AM
Only had my grandfather pass away so far :\. I kept myself to myself eyes watered up at funeral but held it together mostly. It didn't really hit me that he was just gone.
Kevin'
Mar 10 2010, 10:45 AM
Didn't really lose someone close to me so far, except my mom her twin sister but that's mainly because my mother was super close to her. I don't know how i would react if i'd lose my mother, father, brother, girlfriend or one of my best friends.
Steve
Mar 10 2010, 11:43 AM
when my dad died in like 2003 i was pking on rs
after some minor distractions i was back owning it up
sad thing is im not being sarcastic/trolling in any way.
Toon
Mar 10 2010, 11:47 AM
Only persons I've lost are my grandfather and a cousin.
Compared to others in my family I don't seem to be affected by it THAT much but I was sad nonetheless.
My way to get over it is thinking they're in a better place right now. (but that's just because they both suffered alot at the end of their lives).
Don't know if that applies to you too.
SpeedAtNight
Mar 10 2010, 12:28 PM
I don't publicly grieve. And no that isn't code for go home sit on the bed and cry, it's more of an internal thing and I just do alot of thinking. Depends on the person but that's what I did like two months ago with my uncle that I was rather close to. When I was younger of course I was more public about it and cried (especially 'bout my grandma and grandpa) but I was like six and ten when those respectively happened.
Raynard
Mar 10 2010, 01:13 PM
QUOTE(Toon @ Mar 10 2010, 09:51 PM)

Only persons I've lost are my grandfather and a cousin.
Compared to others in my family I don't seem to be affected by it THAT much but I was sad nonetheless.
My way to get over it is thinking they're in a better place right now. (but that's just because they both suffered alot at the end of their lives).
Don't know if that applies to you too.
That's one of the few positives I can find in religion. Although I believe that there is no 'better' place, at the very least I know that they aren't suffering anymore.
Temuz`
Mar 10 2010, 01:32 PM
I stab someone else so I can transfer my misery to a random family.
Harvey
Mar 10 2010, 01:38 PM
only time can really help.. or atleast with me it does.
Ste
Mar 10 2010, 02:16 PM
Had my dads mum, and my mums grandma die on the same day (24th december)
Gotta admit i cried a bit, i was only 12 though. now i just think a lot,
Proto
Mar 10 2010, 02:41 PM
QUOTE(Raynard @ Mar 10 2010, 01:17 PM)

QUOTE(Toon @ Mar 10 2010, 09:51 PM)

Only persons I've lost are my grandfather and a cousin.
Compared to others in my family I don't seem to be affected by it THAT much but I was sad nonetheless.
My way to get over it is thinking they're in a better place right now. (but that's just because they both suffered alot at the end of their lives).
Don't know if that applies to you too.
That's one of the few positives I can find in religion. Although I believe that there is no 'better' place, at the very least I know that they aren't suffering anymore.
Better place != Heaven.
Being at rest seems a lot better than being in constant pain.
pingu53
Mar 10 2010, 03:26 PM
death is permanent and no mourning is gonna change that so i just get on with life
Andy
Mar 10 2010, 05:27 PM
Luckily i havent experienced any good friends/siblings/parents dying, but i've lost one grandfather and a grandmother. I think i was 14 when my grandmother died, and 11 when my grandfather died. Cried in both funerals and still miss them sometimes
Tiger
Mar 10 2010, 05:44 PM
I only remember losing both my Grandfathers, I was around 8 at the time so it didn't effect me that much. I'm not sure how I would react to losing one of my family members/best friends.
0rion 84
Mar 10 2010, 07:41 PM
I'm very private in my mourning. When it's someone close I will definitely cry and detach from reality for a while, but I eventually just swallow my sorrow. I'm very rational, so I try to tell myself that it's just a part of life. I have to be somewhat callous as a surgeon though, since it's something I will encounter often.
Arne33
Mar 10 2010, 08:54 PM
I cry like normal people. I doubt the people who died would want friends/loved ones to spend time in a depressed state and shit over it. you can cry all you want, wont bring back the dead lol
Hinterlain
Mar 10 2010, 09:24 PM
QUOTE(alan @ Mar 10 2010, 02:09 AM)

I don't have emotions. You could argue that I deal with it by not dealing with it, but I'd have to counter-argue in order for me to avoid it, I'd have to care about it. I seriously feel nothing for the people in my life. And it goes even further where I'd actually prefer some of them dead so they'd leave me alone instead of inconveniencing me by talking to me.
You must be a
badass.
Liquidsnake
Mar 10 2010, 09:57 PM
I've lost my uncle and my grandfather. My grandfather's funeral was a year ago to this day actually.
My uncle's death i was a little unsure of how to deal with. I did cry over it and I still think about him from time to time.
My grandfather on the other hand, I am over it, I have accepted the reality, but my grandmother has been a wreck since my grandfather died, and I feel more sad for her that she lost the one person who she gave her life to.
My mother and I made a slide show for my grandfather, and the songs that play during it usually make me think about him, always have, and they always will (song is called "In Loving Memory", by Altar Bridge)
Death isn't something that you can avoid, you just have to find confidence in family and friends and know that they are there for you in your time of need.
And whoever said they don't feel anything for anyone, good to know, just drop dead so the world can live in peace without your cynical bullshit.
Pighead
Mar 10 2010, 10:09 PM
I'm a total humanist and if you're not then I hope you die.
steveneatworld
Mar 10 2010, 10:15 PM
no one really close to me has died except for my dog lucy and rat dennis, i cried at both and still miss them
Ziggy
Mar 10 2010, 10:58 PM
Just get over it eventually
Declan
Mar 10 2010, 11:02 PM
All 4 of my grandparents are alive, the only relations that have died that Iv heard about (while Iv been alive) were my grand uncle (which I have little memory of) and some 3rd cousin I never met. Apart from that nobody close has ever died to me so I dont really know how I deal/will deal with death.
thtyre
Mar 10 2010, 11:08 PM
I'll see you again one day, Woody.
Mike`
Mar 10 2010, 11:11 PM
act pissed off/sad for a bit then i get over it
Petey
Mar 10 2010, 11:55 PM
Haven't had anyone close to me die yet, thankfully. However, my grandparents are probably going to hit in <10 years. The thought scares me and, call me a pussy, but I get really upset and eyes feel like they could tear up. I have a really close family, grandparents and my uncle included.
okay338
Mar 11 2010, 12:00 AM
If it was someone i cared about like my mom or dad, I would probably cry for several days and play a bunch of computer games to occupy myself.
After several weeks, I think I would be able to rationalize their death without being as emotional and move on bit by bit over time.
steveneatworld
Mar 11 2010, 12:05 AM
i would give my life for my parents in a heartbeat if i could ^
okay338
Mar 11 2010, 12:07 AM
QUOTE(steveneatworld @ Mar 10 2010, 04:09 PM)

i would give my life for my parents in a heartbeat if i could ^
yeah i would give my kidney/liver/blood/bone marrow(?) but if i die my mom would have no reason to continue on. Not joking. Im her only child and she's very, very protective. my dad would probably go on fine, he has like 3 kids.
`Brian
Mar 11 2010, 12:12 AM
Tis sad
Flako Rlz
Mar 11 2010, 12:18 AM
I'm not sure yet. When I was born, both of my grandfathers were dead and a few years ago my grandma died. I don't know I was sad but I didn't cry. It was probably because I never got to see her a lot and we didn't get that relation that builds up with someone you hang around. It will be very different if someone from the family members that live with me, like my dad, mom, brother or sister were to pass away. Hopefully it doesn't happen anytime soon.
Gkef
Mar 11 2010, 12:43 AM
QUOTE(Ace Spitball @ Mar 10 2010, 04:28 PM)

QUOTE(alan @ Mar 10 2010, 02:09 AM)

I don't have emotions. You could argue that I deal with it by not dealing with it, but I'd have to counter-argue in order for me to avoid it, I'd have to care about it. I seriously feel nothing for the people in my life. And it goes even further where I'd actually prefer some of them dead so they'd leave me alone instead of inconveniencing me by talking to me.
You must be a
badass.
No, he's just
Alan.
Overkill
Mar 11 2010, 01:01 AM
what
Leo
Mar 11 2010, 01:09 AM
It sucks but it's the way life is, people can't live forever, just try to enjoy your time with those that are still alive.
`Jon
Mar 11 2010, 01:43 AM
No direct family or friend has died yet so dnt no
Bell
Mar 11 2010, 01:44 AM
Listen to some sad songs. Try to cry. Can't. Just get sad when I think about em. I don't like to think about death now that I have a kid. Kind of scary.
Enkidu
Mar 11 2010, 01:55 AM
Lost my dad last October, a few days before his birthday. He died from a sudden heart attack. Couldn't sleep for months and very often I have those dreams that seem so real and I'm thinking "am I dreaming?" I try to forcibly wake myself up and it doesnt work and I think "Afterall, it was just a bad dream" then minutes later I finally wake up. Shit way to start a day.
-Kyle-
Mar 11 2010, 02:05 AM
Honestly the only thing you can do is live on with your life. As brian burke once said "You cry a little less everyday"
Dan`
Mar 11 2010, 04:00 AM
QUOTE(Ste @ Mar 11 2010, 03:20 AM)

Had my dads mum, and my mums grandma die on the same day (24th december)
Gotta admit i cried a bit, i was only 12 though. now i just think a lot,
That must of been a really shit christmas ;x
I just don't think about it/let it get to me.
Phil
Mar 11 2010, 02:31 PM
QUOTE(Bellmaster3 @ Mar 11 2010, 01:48 AM)

Listen to some sad songs. Try to cry. Can't. Just get sad when I think about em. I don't like to think about death now that I have a kid. Kind of scary.
I was listening to Muse - Unintended when I heard my grandpa had died. It's pretty sad to start with, but fuck it's bad now.
All The Hurt
Mar 11 2010, 04:03 PM
Only had to deal with the death of two relatives, one was my great grandfather who I wasn't that close to since he lived so far away, I think I only saw him like 5 times or something, the other was my grandmother who I was very close to and i'm not gonna lie I cried like a baby when I heard about it.
Think I was like 12 at the time, still gets to me sometimes but you've gotta move on.
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